Of Tolerance & Toilet Paper

October 17, 2012

With Halloween coming up, and the Paranormal Activity 4 screening on Thursday (whoop, whoop!), I got to thinking – what is “scary”?  For example: to some, haunted houses induce fits of giggles and to others they may illicit nightmares.  My point is, there are a lot of things in life that are up to interpretation.

This idea is applicable to many peoples opinions across the board;  including the best route to take in the car to a destination, what weather constitutes as “perfect”, which stuffing recipe should be used at Thanksgiving dinner, and perhaps most controversial, which way the toilet paper roll should face [duh, duh, duh!!].

A cacophony of ideas inevitably ends in conflict over whose idea is “better”.  What people often don’t realize is that their needs may best be met with one solution while another person’s or group’s needs may be better met with a different solution.  The cliche saying “one man’s trash is another man’s treasure” really is true. Taking a physical approach, just look at how discarded or otherwise unloved items are giving new life through recycling and flea markets!

Next time you think about getting into an argument about religion or politics (or anything else!) with someone, whether they are close to your heart or not, remember that you two are entirely separate individuals and that you have different needs.  I’ve talked in class before about “meeting felt needs”. You and the individual in question will have some needs that you feel should be addressed differently, so try not to bash others merely because you can not understand or assimilate their needs.

Being more sensitive to the varying opinions of others will help you build rapport on those things you do have in common, and still be able to respect the fact that you two can’t see precisely eye to eye.  I think using this method of tolerance can help someone become a valued member in a community and a respectable leader.

What is your Great Debate ?


DO NOT STRETCH!

October 17, 2012

 

When it comes to going to the gym, you should always stretch before you work out. It is called a “warm-up”. You do your work out. You stretch to cool down. When it comes to being a leader, I can not stress this enough: DO NOT STRETCH! Now, here me out.

Leadership for one is not the same as working out; however, it is a work out. Leading isn’t easy. We all know that even though anyone can do it. When it comes to my pivotal piece of advice “DO NOT STRETCH!”, I mean don’t stretch yourself too thin. Pick one, two, maybe even three things that you really love to fight or advocate for. Leave it at that.

Now, I have told what not to do, but I bet you are wonder why not? I will do that right now since you asked. When you stretch while leading, you stretch yourself out among all of your efforts. Especially if you are a perfectionist like many leaders, you try to stretch yourself 100% among all of your efforts. The inevitable response to this is stress. I know this from personal experience.

During high school, which was so long ago (5 months ago), I was a very involved student leader. I was involved in theater, my Legal Studies Academy, my Mentor Program, my Young Democrats group, and other things. On top of all that, I had my school work to conquer and my family issues to deal with (don’t even get me started on that).

Anyways, the point I’m making if you have stress overloading you. Normally, people resort to depression and self-harming acts and suicidal ideations. Those are issues that most leaders deal with at one point of their life. Most go to therapist or talk to someone else. If you follow my advice, you won’t stretch yourself in the first place.

I leave you with this:
“My success, part of it certainly, is that I have focused in on few things.” -Bill Gates


2011 Top American Leaders

October 17, 2012

Recently, I found a very interesting article regarding the men and women who were named the 2011 Top American Leaders (http://www.washingtonpost.com/blogs/post-leadership/post/leadership-advice-from-the-2011-top-american-leaders/2011/04/01/gIQAc2zrZO_blog.html). Harvard’s Kennedy School and the Washington Post selected these seven selected leaders. The winners all gathered in a forum where they gave advice to the public about how to hone in on their own leadership potential. The winners were former FDIC chairman Sheila Bair, New York Governor Chris Christie, Google Ideas Director Jared Cohen, University of Maryland Baltimore County President Freeman Hrabowski, Kennedy Center for the Performing Arts President Michael Kaiser, New York Times Columnist Nicholas Kristof, and Nobel Prize winner and United States Science Envoy to the Middle East Ahmed Zewail. They all had different backgrounds, came from different walks of life, and held different beliefs, but everyone was known for their outstanding leadership abilities.
Despite the obvious differences, each leader held very similar values. These values included honesty, focusing on the task at hand instead of worrying about the future, and the need to improve education. The general consensus was that “leadership is about groups rather than individuals and about character rather than title.” I could not agree more with this philosophy of leadership.
Although every single leader had a different idea for what makes a good leader, each person highlighted the fact that the group is more important than the individual and that one must have integrity in order to lead. What do you think? Are these the most important things for a leader to remember? Hrabowski put it perfectly when he stated that “leadership is not about the status of one person, but the dreams and values of a group of people.” Kristoff also believed that “leadership is above all else a state of mind.”
Do these ideas presented by the 2011 Top American Leaders line up with your ideas surrounding leadership? When leading, is it more important to focus on the task at hand instead of the future, or should the future be the first thing we worry about?


MISSION IMPOSSIBLE: Skip reading this post and not post a comment on said post

October 17, 2012

If you think you are going to skip this post and not read more, and not even post a comment, well then you better….

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Effective Way of Creating Change: Yes or No?

October 17, 2012

I recently volunteered at the LAMB center here in Fairfax with my campus ministry group. If you haven’t heard of it, the LAMB center is a day shelter for people who are homeless or who have very low incomes. It provides breakfast, lunch, showers, laundry service, job search assistance, Bible study, and other services.

 

To help with job searches, the center has a closet of nice business clothes for interviews. My job for the day was to organize the closet and iron dress shirts. Afterwards, I talked with some of the people there and helped clean up after lunch.

 

In the article called “What is Social Change?” by Professor Wagner that we read at the beginning of the semester, there was a section called “Possible Pitfalls in Social Change” (28-32) that explained faults that could potentially happen in social change efforts despite good intentions. The center’s ultimate main goal is to combat homelessness in the Fairfax area. I think that this organization is one that doesn’t fall into one of the “pitfalls” because it doesn’t just stop at giving to the citizens of Fairfax in need; it helps them get out of their situations by finding jobs or getting counseling. It is also a friendly space where they can create ties with people from the community.

 

What do you think about the center? Does it sound like something that creates social change, or does it fall into one of the “pitfalls?” Do you know of any organizations around your hometown or around the area that did/do fall into one of the “pitfalls?”

 

-Mimi


“What’s Gonna Work? TEAMWORK!”

October 16, 2012

http://sports.yahoo.com/blogs/highschool-prep-rally/top-rb-stops-one-yard-short-end-zone-184311063.html

This week I decided to write about selflessness in teams and the importance of sharing the glory. Both of these acts are exemplified in the article posted above. In summary, a teen football player was 1 yard line away from scoring his twelfth touchdown of the season, when he suddenly stopped running and purposely stepped out of bounds. Two days prior, a freshman teammate had lost his father to a stroke but managed to suit up for that night’s game. The purpose of his upperclassman teammate getting flagged was to allow him the honor of scoring his first touchdown in memory of his father. [Read the article for a clearer understanding].

The selfless act demonstrated by one teammate caused an uproar in the community. He was able to sit his ego to the side and prioritize his somewhat “lesser” teammate as number one. How many of us would be willing to give up something for ourselves and hand it to someone else?

Working together in a team is all about collaborative efforts amongst everyone. Ones in higher positions should strive to pull ones up that are in lower positions. Everyone should feel equal, no matter his or her rankings. In my opinion, that is the meaning and purpose of being in a team.


College Dropout “Leads” to Startup

October 16, 2012

So this is it, huh? The life of a college student- wake up ten minutes before class with just enough time to decide if brushing your teeth is more important than taking a shower. Breakfast? Forget breakfast… I’m in a sprint to get to class! Ahh, throw in the fact I have a seven p.m. Entrepreneur Club meeting on top of midterms, and I have to meet with coders to plan our execution of how to create a more effective database system for the company. The life of a college entrepreneur- a decision between the present and future.

 

I am sure many have heard of the movie “The Social Network” or even log in to Facebook often times while procrastinating on writing a paper; however, do many people really understand the significance of college to an entrepreneur’s life? The answer is slim to none. College students all over the world are now more so than ever creating positive change in the world in addition to helping grow our nation’s economy. These students are putting their brains, bodies, and innovation to the test… not to mention their own education on the line to excel their own company.

 

College students following the paths of Steve Jobs, Mark Zuckerberg, and Bill Gates are not just an anomaly but the majority. It is not uncommon for college students, like these successful entrepreneurs, to become college dropouts. According to an article published on Forbes- College becomes non-essential to an entrepreneur who knows he or she has the IQ of Einstein and the “next big thing.” College loses its’ appeal and assurance to the business-minded individual that knows in the back of their mind… Just because I have a degree does not necessarily mean I will become anymore successful than what I have created in right front of me. Higher academia adds a certain pressure of conforming these “mis-fits” hopes and dreams stemmed from their creativity and individualistic abilities. From skipping class to take a phone call with a venture capitalist, creating a better business prototype, and prepping for the next sales pitch… College students as entrepreneurs have the ambition to change the world fueled by the potential to produce their own fame and fortune.

 

At Mason, our motto is- “Where Innovation is Tradition.” We have the Center for Social Entrepreneurship that focuses on teaching college students about the research, practice and education about how to solve the next generation’s world problems through empowerment. The Center serves as a capstone to the Phoenix Project. On other college campuses, various Entrepreneur Clubs are created to promote entrepreneurship and innovative thinking among higher education as an extra-curricular activity.

 

By integrating these various entrepreneurship opportunities into our higher education systems, we are never able to breakeven. There is a constant fight between a set curriculum, abstaining from limiting the abilities of others, coordinating with the campus, and trying to preserve the true definition of entrepreneurship. It is often times difficult to gauge the objectives of the group. Whether the student has a goal to learn the ethos and culture of entrepreneurship, how to create a business model, or even if the student wants to network with others interested in possibly forming a start-up, the details of the club or course can be hard to uniform without breaking the ethics of entrepreneurship.

 

Drop in on the next big thing or drop out of the degree? Take the risk and the reward; that is up to you. Geeks are the new rock stars becoming “America’s Most Wanted.” College is a personal journey, a chance for hope to seize the future one day. Each route may have its own challenges and obstacles. The way I see it, college entrepreneurs are leaders inspiring others within this generation and the next to take risks, dream big, and leave the world better than it was before.

http://www.forbes.com/sites/johngreathouse/2012/06/05/business-tips-from-college-dropouts-zuckerberg-jobs-gates-dell-ellison-branson-and-disney/2/


The Not-So Self-Fulfilling Prophecy

October 15, 2012

by Lori Lawson

Upon taking the Myers-Briggs test for class last week, I couldn’t help to question its reliability. Though we addressed the problem of having a different answer based on your mood while taking the test, I still couldn’t help but to think that there is more room for error. As I carefully read the questions and filled out the bubbles, it hit me – am I choosing these answers because it is what I want to be or is it because of who I am currently?

Having an idea of how the test works from taking it before, I knew I had certain results in mind that I valued over others. Due to this, I spent almost the entire test battling with myself to rid myself of the internal bias that threatened to skew my results. This struggle between reality and wishful thinking brought to mind a point I made in class several weeks ago: do people aim for positions and responsibilities that they know they are capable of at the time or do they aim for who they want to do or to be in the future?

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Right, Temporarily Defeated

October 11, 2012

“I believe that unarmed truth and unconditional love will have the final word in reality.  This is why right, temporarily defeated, is stronger than evil triumphant.”

-Martin Luther King Jr.  (Norway, 1964)

 

Sometimes what is right doesn’t win.  This is why, as a leader especially in non-profit settings, it can be discouraging to try to make change.

 

The summer approaching my senior year in high school I began an internship at a local Christian non-profit in my area called Orphan Helpers.  This tiny non-profit began through a local real-estate salesman and pulled its support mostly from wealthy patrons in the Virginia peninsula.  It struggled monthly with finding the funding it needed to pay staff, help the kids, and increase awareness.  Many times, Roma, the event coordinator I worked with, would throw up her hands in frustration over the vast need that Orphan Helpers was struggling to provide for.

 

In these moments of frustration, I was able to remind the staff of their ultimate mission and to show them the bigger picture of the work they were doing-be it grant-writing, or sending letters.  As a fresh, young face in the office I was able to provide a bit of energy and excitement when the going got tough.

 

In the end though, I do believe that right with triumph.  What are ways, as leaders, that we are called to help in the frustrating time between evil’s reign and right’s conquer?


Love…Peace…Leadership

October 10, 2012

Okay, so everyone has heard the phrase, “innovation is tradition,” right? Of course you have! It’s our motto here at GMU! Well, an important aspect of being a leader is being an innovator. This may may not be an easy thing to do, but it’s quite important in the way that we show ourselves to be leaders. It’s easy to mimick what we have seen other people do, in a way a lot of who we are today has probably came about from mimicking parents, older siblings or relatives, friends, celebrities, etc. But it’s important to make a path of your own. I think a common misunderstanding is that leaders have to be perfect all the time, or that they just automatically arrived at success from birth, which we all know is not the case. I mean, look at National Basketball Association World Champion, Michael Jordan. This guy failed to make his high school Varsity basketball team. Did that stop him? NO! In the course of adversity, we define ourselves as leaders. One mistake, bad judgement or even failed attempt should not destroy us as leaders. In fact, it should make us stronger, wiser, and more determined. Just look at it this way, what if Thomas Edison gave up? what if Robert Ledley just decided to call it quits? Or better yet, Mary Anderson? In case you are unfamiliar with these people, I’ll just show you…

  1. Every time you go to turn on that lovely light switch in your dorm, nothing would happen.. Thanks for the light bulb Edison!
  2. When the sick are experiencing symptoms but don’t know the origin, they can get a CAT scan! Thanks Ledley
  3. When you’re driving in the pouring rain and flip that finger for those windshield wipers, yup, you guessed it. We have Anderson to thank for those!

Essentially, these innovators are responsible for very important inventions that we use in everyday life. But do you think they succeeded their first time? Of course not! Just remember to NEVER GIVE UP!

 

See you later,

Re’Necia Coda

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