As humans, we have an innate ability to judge everyone even if we don’t mean to. It is a conscious decision we have to make in order to not judge people. In everyday situations, we do it all the times. When we are ordering in a restaurant, we judge the server. We look at the gender, the quality of the service and, at least for me, the hygiene. We see a movie we judge the actors acting. We judge the movie; therefore, judging the director, the producer, and all other backstage people. I would say we don’t have a choice, but I would be lying if I said that. We always have a choice. We can choose to be different and try to not judge with a conscious decision. The moment we do that something has changed. We have become different. We have become an innovator. We have officially become a leader.
Easy right? Wrong. Now that we are a leader. The very thing we decided to change is not haunting us. Let me be clear being a leader is not a easy. We have to be constantly judged. We are put on a pedestal to be watched at all times; even though, there are people who climb to be in this position at the center of the pedestal. For the people who don’t, we are still judged by the way we get there. The way we survive the rise to “stardom” for a lack of better words. We are judged on how we carry ourselves at the top. Contrarily, if it happens, we are also judged on our descent from the pedestal.
People always used to ask me: “Roger, how do you always put yourself in the spot light? How do you always become the leader of a group?” My response is always the same. I love it. I love the feeling of being in the spotlight but not only that. I love the feeling of helping people. I love the feeling that I get in my heart when I have done something good for someone else that I chose to do. Recognition is important yet, but even then that is being judged.
There is good judging such as that of recognition. There is bad judging in the sense people criticizing you. My main point is that if you don’t want to be judged, don’t be a leader. Because if you do become one, people are always going to judge you no matter what you do. No matter how good or how bad of a leader you are, people will judge you.
I am done for now. I wrote this because I was having some issues with judging, but I realized this. I became an innovator because of a passage I read in a really good book. Everybody should check it out.
Matthew 7:1-5
“Do not judge, or you too will be judged. 2 For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you. 3“Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? 4 How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? 5 You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.
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