Leadership in Dating: Who Wears the Pants?
Dating is a complicated process for any couple. It takes hard work on both ends to maintain a satisfying relationship. Nowadays, I feel as though dating is a much harder process due to certain capacities: timing, age differences, jobs, location, or feelings in general. A complexity of a relationship that is often so prominent in relationships- Who wears the pants? Who takes the lead in a relationship? This question made me wonder… Is this really why opposites attract?
In a relationship, two individuals with the exact same goals, interests, and personality types will probably not stick together for very long. It is obvious why given an example: Two people with extreme domineering personalities, will bicker and butt heads on too many petty things. Both of these individuals are blantantly trying to “wear the pants.” It is about who is leading over who, and that is not a healthy relationship.
Leadership can be a concept involving several different capacities in a relationship; whether it pertains to a sexual relationship, friendly relationship, or a job-related relationship. The better that we understand leadership, and how to juggle diverse personalities and their impact on relationships. Whether you are zipping up the pants, taking them off, sewing the hole in them, shopping for a new pair, or getting the grass stains out; ask yourself this–> Who wears the pants?
December 5th, 2012 at 9:54 am
Great blog! I was thinking of that too. I believe that in our modern society both sexes can wear the pants. Old fashioned ways of thinking are out dated. However, good leadership within a relationship is a 50% 50% split between both sexes/partners. Both have to make it work in order to have a successful relationship nowadays.
December 5th, 2012 at 12:18 pm
To me, it is unrealistic for one, sole person to wear the pants. I certainly know I wouldn’t be happy being in either total control or having no say of the happenings of a relationship. I think it’s healthy to trade off. I like being able to be heard when I have something to say, and equally, I have the capacity to listen to what the other person has to say. While I think, to a point, it is traditional for the male figure in a heterosexual relationship to take the reins, it’s nice to occasionally break the mold.
I think it’s important to make sure that you don’t let yourself get pushed around in a relationship- but also to be kind and not constantly push your S.O. around. I believe the ideal relationship situation is one where you lead each other, take turns, and are considerate of each other.